it's not our version of knowing the oscars. they roll out the montage. we want to extract meaning and give them meaning in whatever form possible. sarah did an incredible job with the victims of sandy hook and took the only comparable incident, they took 300 kids that died and she explains there was really no way to recover from that. they canceled the service one year afterwards. the grief was too extraordinary and took 40 years for the vehicles to come together and in 50 years they built to it. there was a big point as meaningful as i heard, it's important to get beyond the numbers in a crisis like this and think about the individual lives that were lost. individual lives unlived. >> you have one life in paradise park, new jersey. that's a death of a regioner and talk about why you put this life lost umbrella that you have here. >> that's a good question. >> it was a small isthmus in the sandy hook bay. there were 53 trailer homes or mobile homes there and they were all wiped out by sandy. all but one. one man living there and the interesting thing is